Miss Represented

How many women have ever sneered after seeing an advertisement misrepresenting women by depicting them in an inappropriate manner? In fact It seems as though it’s everywhere. Rarely you see women portrayed in a good light. The recently released film Miss Representation is dedicated to exposing how poorly mainstream media outlets portray women. Although I’ve known for years that the media isn’t fair in representing women, it brought something new to the table. They show interweaving clips of all the major news outlets showing some of the most successful women saying very insulting comments about them. Embarrassingly enough, I probably wouldn’t have noticed this before but it really bothered me that these women, many of whom that have been groundbreaking in their fields, being treated so disgracefully. I’m halfway finished my masters degree and perhaps it's naive to believe that if you reach a certain level, especially as a woman, that you will be respected by the media rather than ridiculed. That is my expectation at least. Regardless of political stance some of these women have reached positions never thought attainable in the past and to degrade them by how they look is utterly disgusting. Part of this, as the film points out, is cultural. We have issues when it comes to how women look and this starts with women solely. No one wants to admit this giant pink elephant in the center of the room. We are hard on ourselves. Either too fat, too skinny, too light, too dark, too much makeup, not enough, not sexy enough, too sexy, too old and I could go on and on. We are so hard on ourselves. I always listen to women when around them and I hear these comments incessantly. It’s so upsetting, especially from older women. I am misrepresented. By the media, by pop culture, and more importantly, by other women.

Trailer to Miss Representation

Another aspect of popular culture that is really hard on women is if you are single. I’d never heard of Jezebel or any site like it but I did read the “Ten Ten Very Good Reasons You Aren’t Married Yet.” While the article is written by a woman, I think that it is this sort of debate about marriage and women not marrying seems like it spans centuries. Not getting married doesn’t make you an independent woman just like marriage doesn't make you a dependent one. The article repeats the stereotype that independent women don’t need Mr. Right or that we are making a statement not putting a ring on it. I do agree with this statement however it is important not to judge all women by these standards. Relationships are personal and should not be driven society standards. Needless to say they usually don’t conform under this microscope. Thanks Jezebel but no thanks. I don’t need your advice on marriage and why I’m not or on anything for that matter. I’m my own woman and that's something I hope all your readers understand.

The final issue that the media and pop culture treats with disrespect is motherhood. See http://www.womensmediacenter.com/feature/entry/childbirth-hollywood-style Recently I posted this status on my fb profile: “I'm ever conscious that young women and girls are critically observing older women. With so many poor examples in the media and even in the grocery store, I strive to be a positive role model. I hope one day all women will realize that they too are are being observed. Young women and girls 'learn' behavior from their peers.” I wrote this after seeing a mother with a 2-year-old toddler in the grocery store wearing a string bikini and a cover up that showed off more than it covered. Her husband seemed so proud of this. Not too far away was an 11-year-old girl and her mom. The girl was staring at the mother in the bikini and it got me thinking. What have women been doing to themselves? Where are our standards? How will we want our children to behave? Our young girls? I am an independent women but independence doesn’t mean wearing a string bikini in the grocery store. It means being strong and having dignity for myself. Being valued for what is inside and not on the outside. Believe me that will fade in time. This is what my grandmother taught me. We are taught through the media that every woman must have a baby before she's too old, loose weight fast, and be a sexy milf or cougar. No I won't explain that last line. Popular culture has done a number on us. The website Women's Media Center is a very good advocate for changing perceptions about in the media about women. This article of childbirth and hollywood focusing on what a recent film left out, women of color and pregnancy complications, is missing something. I encourage all women to see the film The Business of Being Born. It is a film made my Ricki Lake and embraces natural childbirth. Aside from that she exposes the viewer to how hollywood treats childbearing which we all know isn’t pretty. Being a mother, biologically or adopted, is an experience that asks women to answer many important questions particularly about herself, her body, her image, and her legacy. This also relates to women who decide to not have children.

One of the reasons why I decided to write this post was to prove that there are alternative voices and images of what it means to be a woman today. I refuse to let industries identify what being a woman is for me. This started when my grandmother told me the most important lesson to womanhood, love and value yourself. This is a lesson everyone needs.
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Links:

http://jezebel.com/5915555/ten-very-good-reasons-you-arent-married-yet?utm_campaign=socialflow_jezebel_facebook&utm_source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow